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What is this strange and bitter miracle of life? Is it to feel\u2026
\nthe evening hush, the sorrow of lost, fading light, far sounds
\nand broken cries, and footsteps, voices, music, and all lost–
\nand something murmurous, immense, and mighty in the air?<\/p>\n

—Thomas Wolfe
\n______________<\/p>\n

The email came in last spring, a little more than a year ago. From a man in Texas who claimed to be my cousin. Elmer Stoll, better known as Garner. And he had some things to tell me. <\/p>\n

We are passing close to your area next year, sometime in May, the email said. My brother Amos and me. And we\u2019d like to connect with you, if you have the time. We\u2019ve never met. We are the sons of your Uncle Albert and Aunt Mary. Absolutely, I wrote back. Just let me know when you\u2019re in the area, and we\u2019ll get together.<\/p>\n

And I looked forward to it. He emailed me again, right over the time I was getting out of the hospital with my mended heart. And somehow, I let it slide. Didn\u2019t think much about it. It was the Coumadin, messing with my head, I think. I was going to answer him. But the days just slid by, and I never got it done. I just flat out forgot. Then, the Friday before Memorial Day, I got a call at the office. A soft-voiced guy. Samuel Martin, a nephew to Garner and Amos. He was going to be in the area, too, the next Monday evening. Memorial Day evening. And they were all just wondering if I still wanted to meet. I slapped myself upside the head. Groaned aloud, on the phone. I\u2019m so sorry, I told Samuel. Of course I want to meet. There\u2019s been a bunch of crap going on in my life, lately. \u201cYeah, I\u2019ve been following that on your blog,\u201d he said. It totally slipped my mind, I said. I\u2019m sorry. Let\u2019s get together at Vinola\u2019s around seven, in Leola. \u201cAll right,\u201d he said. \u201cI\u2019ll let the others know. We\u2019ll plan on it.\u201d Great, I said. And we exchanged cell phone numbers. <\/p>\n

Over the weekend, I hung out with old friends at the cabin in West Virginia. As I was getting close to home on Monday afternoon, my phone rang. Unfamiliar number. I answered. This is Ira. \u201cThis is Garner Stoll,\u201d the man said. \u201cWe\u2019re looking forward to meeting you tonight.\u201d Great. Me too, I said. I found out that Vinola\u2019s is closed, though. There\u2019s a little pub just outside New Holland, Brady\u2019s. Why don\u2019t we meet there at 6:30? \u201cWe\u2019ll be there,\u201d he said. Me too, I said. And we hung up.<\/p>\n

I was waiting for them at a table outside Brady\u2019s just before 6:30. And right on time, they walked up. It had to be them. Two guys, a decade or so older than me. And a lithe young man, who looked to be a teenager. They waved as they walked up. And I got up and walked to meet them. They were lean and fit, and looked familiar. They had strong Stoll features, but I had never met them before. We shook hands, and introduced ourselves. Amos Stoll. Elmer Stoll. Elmer\u2019s son, Evan. Ira Wagler. Immediately we hit it off, as if we\u2019d known each other for years. They were totally open, friendly, smiling. And it struck me fully for the first time at that moment. These men, these strangers, were my first cousins. Blood of my blood. Flesh of my flesh. They were family. They had read my blog, sporadically, over the years, and maybe my book, too. And now they had made the effort to reach out, to come and meet me. They were Albert and Mary\u2019s sons. Their mother was my father\u2019s older sister, a woman I never knew. But I felt it, clear and strong, our connection. And something stirred deep inside me.<\/p>\n

Albert and Mary Stoll. I can\u2019t recall their faces in my mind, which means I can\u2019t remember ever seeing them. My siblings claim I did, back when I was very young. So I won\u2019t dispute that. But I have no recollection of their faces. I\u2019ve heard their names, though, in countless stories. Uncle Albert has always been sort of an infamous legend in the family lore. <\/p>\n

He was born in 1905, in Daviess, one of the many sons of his father, Victor. And his father\u2019s wild strange Stoll blood coursed through him. Victor was a man who stirred always, and questioned everything. Challenged the preachers on all kinds of theological points. I won\u2019t vouch that this is true, but I think it is, because I remember Mom telling it many times. It\u2019s the only such story I\u2019ve ever heard. Victor was estranged from the Amish church in Daviess when he died. I don\u2019t know if he was excommunicated, but he sure wasn\u2019t having much to do with anyone. And on his deathbed, he decreed that there should be no preaching at his funeral, because none of the preachers were good enough to preach over him. That\u2019s what Mom always claimed. Victor was buried, there in Daviess. And there was no preaching at his funeral. <\/p>\n

That\u2019s the kind of setting Albert came from. I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s true of all the Stoll branches in Daviess, but of this particular branch, it is. They have wild, strange blood. And brilliant minds. (My Wagler blood is wild, but melancholy and brooding. You have to be in a cave, to get the real honest, gut-level writing out.) The Stolls are brilliant, on the math side of their brains. They can figure things out. Problem is, though, they use those brains of theirs, as often as not, to dispute and argue. About the tiniest little silly things. How can the church rules be tweaked, so we\u2019re serving God better? What could we do, to suffer a bit more, so He\u2019ll be pleased? Historically, they\u2019ve fussed about the mustache a lot. They believe the Amish should have mustaches. It all seems so futile, all that fussing. If you\u2019re part of a group, accept the rules or get out. <\/p>\n

Albert grew up, and like his father, he questioned just about everything there was to question. And somewhere along the way, he married my father\u2019s older sister, Mary. She was five years younger, but they seemed to get along well. And they started their family, there in Daviess. He never was happy there. I don\u2019t know what the problems were, that far back. Maybe the Daviess youth drank and partied. I don\u2019t know. Anyway, Albert had all kinds of issues, and he was always stirring about. And then, when he was still a young married man, they ordained a preacher, there in his district. And it was destined to be. The lot fell on Albert Stoll. The preacher lot always seems to hit the Stolls a lot, wherever they live. Somehow, it just does. It\u2019s a strange thing. Now he was a preacher, a part of the group he had so many problems with. A part of the leadership of a church he felt was doomed. <\/p>\n

He never fit in, as a preacher. Which is sure no surprise. There was no way he could conform. He was always his own man. Always questioning, always stirring. And somewhere right along about then, a man from the strange and shadowy “Sleeping Preacher”<\/a> churches came wandering through Daviess. And somehow, he got to Albert\u2019s ear. And Mary\u2019s. He got them to listen to him. It probably wasn\u2019t that hard, as they were both convinced the Amish church was sliding downhill fast. And they were both convicted. And they both adopted the Sleeping Preacher heresies. As an Amish preacher, there was no way Albert could stay for long in Daviess after that. And he didn\u2019t. <\/p>\n

In 1942, Albert and Mary moved out of Daviess. Along with a small group of families, they founded a little Amish community in Jerome, Michigan. I don\u2019t know much about this place, except that Albert\u2019s brother, Peter Stoll, and his family also moved up there. Peter, like Albert, had married one of my father\u2019s older sisters. Anna. And there in the Jerome community is where their son, Elmo, was born<\/a>. The man who, decades later, would stride through the Amish world like a giant, and then forsake it, preaching in his mesmerizing voice wherever he went. <\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know much about how it was in Jerome. Actually, I don\u2019t know much about how it was in any community Albert and Mary lived in. I can only write from my perspective. And try to retell the tales as I heard them. Jerome was a small community, maybe half a dozen families, or so. Not all of them came from Daviess. It was a ragtag group. The community lasted for less than ten years. Then the people disbanded, and headed their separate ways. Who knows what the reasons were? Maybe there was dissension. Or maybe it was just time to move on. Peter and Anna Stoll moved over to Piketon, Ohio, to join my parents there in that new fledgling Amish settlement. And before many years had passed, Piketon was blowing up. They claimed at the time that it was the large nuclear plant being installed so close, that\u2019s what made them move out. That\u2019s not true. The place was blowing up, from dissension inside the church. The nuclear plant was just a convenient excuse. But Piketon really has nothing to do with Albert and Mary. <\/p>\n

After the Piketon debacle, Peter Stoll and his family moved to Aylmer, to join my father\u2019s group in settling in southern Ontario. Albert and Mary weren\u2019t interested in that, though. They wanted something harder, something plainer. \u201cZurick und Nunna. Nett usht in ein Weg, ahva in allie Weg.\u201d \u201cStand back, and be humble. Not in just one way, but in every way.\u201d That had been their motto, their code of conduct, ever since the Sleeping Preacher man converted them. Zurick und Nunna, in allie Weg. They wanted to be plainer. More humble. More remote. <\/p>\n

And so they moved, again. To Everton, Arkansas. A remote place. Rocky and hilly. A place where they figured they could live in peace. But \u201cpeace\u201d is a fragile thing. You can see it, you can almost grasp it, but somehow it eludes you like the morning mists. They were hopeful, though, when they moved there. As you would have to be, to even attempt such a thing. They had sons and daughters now, sons and daughters who needed to be taught the right way. Eight sons. And three daughters. (And a few children who were stillborn.) All of them growing up, all of them looking around, the wild strange Stoll blood flowing through all of them. Albert had been taught, by his father. Question everything around you. He taught his sons what his father taught him. Question everything. And soon enough, they would. Soon enough, they would question the foundational bedrock of his own beliefs. <\/p>\n

It was an odd little group of misfits, there in Arkansas. Rudy Wickey and his family moved in from somewhere. And John Martin came over from the Old Order Mennonites. And a few other families drifted in and out over the years. They were fringe people, all of them. Despite that, the Everton community managed to cling to its Amish identity. They were very plain, almost at Swartzentruber level. No running water in the house, no plumbing at all. Albert was the preacher. They had no bishop. Once in a great while, maybe every year or every other year, they managed to cajole some bishop from another community somewhere to come around and hold communion services. Otherwise, they were pretty much isolated. Maybe that\u2019s how they wanted it. Seems odd, but maybe. Anyhow, that\u2019s the way it went. <\/p>\n

My parents and a bunch of my siblings traveled to Arkansas by train to visit Alberts when I was a little baby. I remember nothing of it, of course. But I was there. And the stories have come down. They claim that I wasn\u2019t feeling well, and that I screamed and cried during the entire trip down on the train. All night long, I bawled lustily. Mom and my sisters could do nothing to quiet me. I\u2019m sure I kept a lot of people from sleeping that night on the train. I\u2019m sure many annoyed glances were stabbed at my family by the surrounding English. I\u2019m sure my family was hugely mortified. Oh, well. What can I say at this point, to make it all better? <\/p>\n

When I was growing up, Stephen, Titus, and I were known as \u201cthe three little boys.\u201d Albert and Mary had their own three little boys. Amos. Alvin. And Elmer. My brothers and I ran wild and ragged and barefoot on the old home farm. I\u2019m sure the other three little boys ran wild and ragged and barefoot through the rocky Arkansas hills. They grew up, tough and lithe. The thing is, they grew up, all of Albert\u2019s children. And that\u2019s when the foundations of his world began to shake a bit. That\u2019s when things happened that would drive him and his wife deep into the remote hills in Central America, in the country of Belize. <\/p>\n

It was a lonely place, that home in Arkansas. Albert\u2019s children didn\u2019t have a whole lot of peers around them. And as they grew into adulthood, they began drifting away from their home. To other places, where there was a more active social life. They came to Aylmer for long stays, when I was very young. I don\u2019t remember them, but I\u2019ve always heard the stories. In 1966, Alvin and Elmer came to stay with their Uncle Peter\u2019s family for the whole summer. I think they were well accepted by the Aylmer youth. I know that my sister Magdalena and my brother Joseph befriended them. I know that because Elmer told me that. It was a fond memory for him. <\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know who left first, for good. But, in time, two of the older sons drifted off. Ervin joined the Holderman church, somewhere not that far away from Everton. I\u2019m not sure if Holdermans consider themselves Mennonite, but they are pretty plain. They have very strict rules. And they consider themselves to be in sole possession of the knowledge of the path to salvation. If you ever join that group, you can never leave, not without getting excommunicated. It\u2019s kind of like the Amish, I guess, at least like the Amish in certain areas. <\/p>\n

Then their son Ira left. He didn\u2019t stray too far from the faith of his father. He moved up to Aylmer and stayed with his uncle, Peter Stoll\u2019s, family. He adopted that family as his own, and they adopted him. He worked at odd jobs around the community. He was working for my father on the old home farm the day I was born. <\/p>\n

It was shocking, to Albert, to see his sons leave like that. Ira, not so much. Albert had always called down doom upon the Amish church. It was corrupt, the mainstream part of it. It was doomed. It would not last long, not the way it was going. Still, Ira\u2019s departure to the Amish fold in Aylmer sent only small shock waves through Albert and Mary. Their son Ervin leaving for the Holdermans hit a lot harder. Those people drove cars. They were worldly. And all too soon, the oldest of the three little boys stepped out, too, from Albert\u2019s home in Arkansas. <\/p>\n

Amos. I don\u2019t know if he was reserved or outgoing, growing up. I picture him as quiet. I don\u2019t know that, though. He left, too. Followed his older brother, to the Holdermans. But he would not last long in that world. Maybe a year. Sometime in there, he went off to the big city, to serve in 1-W service. As a conscientious objector to the war. Albert had taught his sons right, that way. Amos wasn\u2019t going to go off and kill or be killed, in senseless, bloody battles. So he served in a hospital, as an orderly, instead. <\/p>\n

And there, working in that hospital, he saw a world he had never seen before. He saw how things were, outside his own confined upbringing. He could never go back. After serving, he quietly went and got his GED. And enrolled in college. His brilliant Stoll brain thrived, through it all. He pushed right on through college, right on through medical school. He was a stellar student. And the oldest of Albert\u2019s \u201cthree little boys\u201d went on to become a neurosurgeon. A guy who operated on people\u2019s brains. He obviously drew deep from the Stoll side of his brain. No Wagler could ever accomplish such a thing. <\/p>\n

It was highly unsettling to Albert and Mary, to see their sons leaving like that. Well, maybe unsettling is not quite strong enough a word. They fretted and fussed and grieved. How could they have failed so badly as parents? They had tried to teach their children the right path. The path the Sleeping Preacher people had showed them. Something wasn\u2019t working. Maybe they could still keep their remaining sons with them, if only they moved to the right place. Zurick und Nunna. Stand back and be humble. And somehow, they got the idea that it would be a good thing to relocate again. To leave the hills and rocks and brambles of Arkansas, to leave that setting for a far more remote place. <\/p>\n

There is no hiding place for any family, not after the sons start stirring about and leaving. Moving to a new place will not address the foundational issues. It\u2019s a Band Aide. A quick change of scenery, so things will get better. They rarely do. Because the reasons the sons were leaving were never faced or dealt with. By that time, it\u2019s usually too late, anyway. It\u2019s futile, to move to try to hide the reasons you needed to move. My father found that out when he moved from Aylmer to Bloomfield, to try to salvage the Amish way for his sons. It didn\u2019t work for Dad. It never had a chance to work. And it didn\u2019t work for Albert. <\/p>\n

In 1966, Albert\u2019s little ragtag group moved to the west central area of Belize. Most of the families from his Arkansas church moved with him. It was known as the Pilgrimage Valley, the place they moved to. A fairly fertile land. And from that valley, their sons kept on leaving. Alvin left, when he was 20 years old. Went out, and wandered among the people of his father\u2019s culture. Taught school, for a year, at some plain community. He saw what Amos was doing, going to college and all. And soon enough, he left it all behind, all that he grew up with. He got his GED, and went off to college, too. <\/p>\n

The \u201cthree little boys\u201d all left when they were around twenty years old, near as I can tell. Elmer (Garner) left right at that age. They all stepped out, from their restrictive world, into some sort of plain community. So it wouldn\u2019t hurt their parents so much. And from that first step, they kept right on moving. Right on into college, and right on into a world of education. For their brilliant Stoll minds, the college world was not a problem. They all excelled, in all their studies. Alvin got his law degree, and worked as an attorney, then as an administrative judge in Texas. Garner got his degree, and ended up as the head city planner of Austin, Texas. I think they both retired recently, from their work. I look at that, I look at all the \u201cthree little boys\u201d got accomplished in their lives, and I marvel. These guys are my cousins. My father\u2019s sister\u2019s sons. <\/p>\n

And I think, too, how that must have been for them. They walked into a new world, and embraced it completely. I held on a little tighter to my roots, way back when I got my GED and went to college. My journey was a lot different from theirs. My parents lived in Bloomfield, Iowa. Their parents lived in a real remote section of Belize. What are the costs, to totally break away? I never did it. I always kept connected. I think Albert\u2019s sons could tell me a whole lot about those costs. A whole lot of things I never knew or saw. Nathan and I went home to see our parents, every year at Christmas. That was not an option for Albert\u2019s sons. Their parents were too far away, inaccessible, really. Zurick und Nunna, all the way. And my heart goes out to the three little boys. It had to be a tough slog, sometimes. It had to be a hard thing, sometimes. It just had to be. <\/p>\n

They all got married, eventually. To totally English women. I think they all had families of their own. Elmer\u2019s first marriage blew up in a pretty brutal way, kind of like my own did. We chatted about it. I can tell you all about how that is, I told him. And, of course, the people in the world he came from dramatically shook their heads. Poor Elmer. Look how it went for him. That\u2019s a good lesson, for our children. That\u2019s just how it goes, when you leave the path your parents taught you. <\/p>\n

Uncle Albert had one more card to play. His sons were deserting. That must mean he wasn\u2019t Zurick und Nunna enough. In 1972, he and his flock retreated even further into the hinterlands. To Barton’s Creek, a truly remote place in Belize. Here, they could be plain enough. Here, they could be humble enough. Here, they could live what the Sleeping Preacher people had taught them to be. And here is where they would die. Here. In a place so remote that few of the freundschaft would ever come to visit. Here, they were buried, Albert and Mary. Estranged from most of their sons. <\/p>\n

They were very poor, the people in that community. They didn\u2019t have much, and that\u2019s the way they wanted it. They scrabbled out a living on the rough land. Kept a few head of lean cattle. Grew some truck crops, vegetables and such. In season, they hitched up a pair of very thin horses to an air-tired wagon and hauled what produce they had to the nearest town. And sold it on the streets. Zurick und Nunna. That\u2019s how they lived, right to the core. <\/p>\n

Aunt Mary was very close to her sister, Anna, Peter Stoll\u2019s wife. And after Peter followed the call of his own strange wild Stoll blood and moved to Honduras, the two sisters connected. At least once, I\u2019m told, Anna traveled to Belize to see Mary. And some of Mary\u2019s siblings made the trek to Belize, too, to visit, at least once in their lifetimes. Bishop Pete Yoder and his wife Martha (Mary\u2019s sister), went to see them. And Dad and Mom went too, I\u2019m not sure of the date. It was probably in the late 1980s, after I had left Bloomfield. By this time, Albert was the classic picture of the aging patriarch, with a full white beard and a glorious white mustache. Dad came back with a funny little story. He took some flashlights along, to give to Albert and Mary as a gift. He figured flashlights might be hard to come by, in Belize. He offered his gifts. They were refused. The people of Barton’s Creek didn\u2019t believe in having flashlights. Zurick und Nunna, that\u2019s how they lived. All the way. So no flashlights. Dad brought his gifts back home. <\/p>\n

You choose to live how you live. And you have every right to. It doesn\u2019t have to make any sense to anyone else, as long as it makes sense to you. Sure, you can make all kinds of judgments from a distance, especially about the past. You can wipe your forehead and think. What were those people thinking? You can do that. But still. I choose to believe that most people do the best they know to do, in the moment. And with all their flaws, Albert and Mary did the best they knew to do. I don\u2019t judge them. And I don\u2019t judge their sons. I wasn\u2019t there. I didn\u2019t see or know what anyone went through. I didn\u2019t see or know what they felt, what they saw, what they lived. On either side of that father\/son divide. <\/p>\n

And in the end, none of that matters, I suppose, as long as you\u2019re at peace with yourself and at peace with God. Death came calling, in Albert\u2019s family, back in the early 1990s. First it came for him. He died in May, 1992. And then it came for his daughter, Sarah Ann. She had rheumatic fever, as a child. She was always sickly. But if I\u2019m not wrong, she married and had children. She sank and passed away, in September, 1992. Those were two hard hits, for the family. That close together. And Aunt Mary could not last long after that. <\/p>\n

She died in February, 1994. She could not long survive the passing of her daughter and her husband. Who knows, what griefs she bore? Who knows, what pain? I\u2019m sure she kept it all to herself, as the Sleeping Preacher people had taught. Zurick und Nunna. Now the three of them are buried, in some remote graveyard in some remote area of Belize. And there they rest. <\/p>\n

And I think, too, of how hard it must have been, for their children, the ones living here in the States. You get the word. Your father just passed away. The funeral is tomorrow. There\u2019s no way you can get there. And then your sister passed. And then your mother. You can\u2019t get there, to say good-bye. It\u2019s not physically possible. My own mother just passed away, a little over a month ago. I know how that feels, that loss. We gathered, the clans did, because we could. Because there was time to. Because my parents lived in Aylmer, not in Belize. It had to be a tough thing for Albert and Mary\u2019s children to face and absorb. How do you grieve the loss, how do you get closure, from such a distance? <\/p>\n

We stood there, outside Brady\u2019s Pub, just talking for a few minutes. Amos and Elmer and me. Elmer\u2019s son, Evan, nineteen years old, stood by quietly. Elmer had written me, so I knew. They were hiking the Appalachian Trail. Every year, they hike for a few weeks. Then the next year, they take up right where they left off the year before. By 2016, I think, they figure to get it done. Tonight, they were staying in a local motel. Tomorrow, they\u2019d take off, east. Evan had flown in that day to join his father and uncle for a week of hiking. And I thought to myself, looking at that. There were some good parents in Evan\u2019s life, or that wouldn\u2019t be happening. I can\u2019t imagine ever wanting to hike any trail with my father, not at that age. <\/p>\n

We went into the little pub and were seated at a large table. We just talked right along. A few minutes later, Samuel Martin walked in. We shook hands. He\u2019s the son of Albert\u2019s second oldest daughter, Loveda. She and her husband, David, live in Tennessee, somewhere, I think. They live plain, kind of like they were brought up. Samuel had broken away, too. He got his RN degree, and has worked in Austin, Texas, on a helicopter ambulance crew. He was on his way up to Aylmer, for some sort of Martin reunion. His uncle, John Martin, is the bishop who preached at Mom\u2019s funeral. He was a quiet intelligent man, Samuel, bearded, with shoulder length hair. He smiled and listened to our talk. Now and then he spoke. <\/p>\n

We ordered our food, and some beers. And just sat there, and talked and talked. It was like we had a lifetime of catching up to do. Then I got a quick idea. Got up and walked outside. Called my brother, Steve. I\u2019m here, in New Holland, with two of our first cousins we\u2019ve never met. Amos and Elmer Stoll. Albert\u2019s sons. Steve was all enthusiastic. \u201cWe\u2019re here at home. The children are all here, tonight. Bring them right over, after you\u2019re done eating.\u201d<\/p>\n

We feasted on ribs and cole slaw and beer. And just talked nonstop. After wrapping that up, we headed out for Steve\u2019s, except for Samuel. His family was back at the motel, he said. He\u2019d better get back to them. I thanked him for coming. And the Stoll brothers and I hit the highway and headed west to where Steve lives. <\/p>\n

We got there just as it was getting dark. They were sitting outside, around a fire. Steve welcomed his cousins to his home. And we sat around and swapped stories of our lives. It was almost surreal, looking back. These guys were of our blood. We never knew them. And yet, somehow, they had made the effort to stop by to see us. <\/p>\n

Soon after dark, I was drooping. I\u2019d had a long weekend, and a long road of traveling to West Virginia and back. I got up to leave. I shook Elmer\u2019s hand. And his son\u2019s. Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by. I\u2019m honored. I really am. You have no idea, the stories I\u2019ve always heard about your family. Thanks so much, for stopping by. Let\u2019s connect again. <\/p>\n

Amos stood off in the distance, talking on his phone. I started to my truck, then waited until he hung up. I walked over and shook his hand and thanked him. I\u2019m really honored that you took the time to stop by, I said. He smiled, and we stood there and chatted for a minute. \u201cI don\u2019t get to all your blogs, but I thank you for writing,\u201d he said. \u201cThat one you wrote years ago about traveling on the Greyhound bus<\/a>, that one was my favorite. You described it exactly as it was. It brought back so many memories. That\u2019s exactly how it was.\u201d Thanks, I said. I appreciate the time anyone takes to read what I write. We shook hands again. And I left. <\/p>\n

And I\u2019ve thought about it since. That\u2019s really what did it, I think, that they ever came. The writing. They read a voice from their own blood. That\u2019s what drew them to connect. That, and the fact that no one\u2019s getting any younger these days.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t write for the money. I never have. Don\u2019t get me wrong. I\u2019ll take all the money I can get for any of my stuff, if someone wants to pay me. And the book has brought in some very nice checks. It was a big deal, to get published by Tyndale. I\u2019ll never downplay that. And I will always be grateful to the people who made it happen. I hope the book will keep right on bringing in many more checks for a long time. <\/p>\n

But that\u2019s not why I write. It never was a reason. I write because I want to tell my story, and the story of my people. Right from where I am, wherever that is. And I throw my stuff out on this blog for free. That\u2019s just how it\u2019s worked best for me, so far. If you want to read it, great. If you don\u2019t want to read it, thanks anyway, for stopping by when you did. <\/p>\n

Once in a while, though, the writing brings in some real returns. Like a blood connection I never knew before. Like meeting the sons of Uncle Albert and Aunt Mary, after we had lived all our lives as strangers. That\u2019s a pretty powerful thing. Family is family, and blood is blood. And in the end, I think, that\u2019s what real writing is all about.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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