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photo-2-small.JPG<\/a> <\/p>\n

\u201cIs it a book,\u201d he would whisper hoarsely to any aspiring young
\nauthor, at the same time rolling his eyebrows about \u2013 \u201cis it a book
\nthat you would be willing for your young daughter to read?\u201d Mr.
\nStoat had no young daughter, but in his publishing enterprises
\nhe always acted on the hypothesis that he did have, and that
\nno book should be printed which he would be unwilling to place
\nin her hands.<\/p>\n

The result, as can be imagined, was fudge and taffy, slop and goo.<\/p>\n

—Thomas Wolfe: You Can\u2019t Go Home Again
\n____________________________________<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know why I did it. I should have known better. Actually, I did know better. But for some reason, it seemed like a good idea at the time. Can’t imagine what I was thinking. <\/p>\n

The three Elmo Stoll blogs have been percolating out there ever since I wrote them. The occasional comment still appears. I still get private emails from readers now and then. So I got to thinking. Why not see if I can get them published somewhere? Done properly, in a little book, with some editing and perhaps a bit of expansion here and there, it would sell. By the thousands. I know that. <\/p>\n

I ran the idea by a couple of friends. One of them offered to drop off a hard copy at a decently large publishing house, where he knew some people. The company and its location will remain anonymous. But the company is \u201cplain.\u201d Owned by either Amish or ex-Amish. But very modern and certainly capable of professionally producing the little book. <\/p>\n

The next day, my friend called. He was at the publisher\u2019s office. With Joe (not his real name), one of the staff there. I was placed on conference call. The three of us talked. Joe seemed like a knowledgeable fellow. Asked pertinent questions. What did I have in mind?<\/p>\n

I told him. The three blogs, edited and perhaps touched up here and there, and com- bined in a book, would sell. \u201cIt\u2019s different writing,\u201d I said. \u201cUnlike anything you\u2019ve read before. And I\u2019m not sure your company will want to publish it. It might jeopardize your relationship with other plain clients. Check it out. If you turn it down, that\u2019s perfectly OK.\u201d I gave Joe my email address and cell number and left it at that. <\/p>\n

A week passed. Then two. I knew what was happening. That the company would not publish the Elmo story. And that was all right. They have a lot a \u201cplain\u201d clients. No sense offending any of them. Business is business. <\/p>\n

And then one morning my cell phone rang. Unknown number. I answered. It was Joe. After exchanging brief pleasantries, he hemmed a bit. He\u2019d read my stuff. And read it again. And passed it around at the company, to get others\u2019 opinions. <\/p>\n

He had decided they would not publish it. \u201cThat\u2019s perfectly fine,\u201d I said. \u201cI told you when we talked before that you might not want it. Appreciate the time you took to consider it.\u201d I prepared to hang up.<\/p>\n

But Joe wasn\u2019t done. He hemmed and hawed a bit more. Then spoke. \u201cSome people I showed it to here thought it was sacrilegious,\u201d he said firmly. <\/p>\n

He should have let it go. Let it rest. Had he done so, this post would never have been written. But he didn’t. Somehow, someone had stuck a burr under his saddle. And his bronc was plunging out of control, bucking wild.<\/p>\n

And I should have ignored the comment and hung up. Told Joe that we\u2019re not going there. Boy, should I ever have. But I didn\u2019t. I engaged. <\/p>\n

\u201cSacrilegious?\u201d I asked. \u201cWhat do you mean, sacrilegious?\u201d <\/p>\n

Bolder now, Joe plowed on. \u201cThe ordination,\u201d he said. \u201cThat is a holy thing. And the way you described it, it was, well, it was not a holy thing.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI saw what I saw. And I wrote what I saw. I was a little kid, but I remember. What\u2019s wrong with that?\u201d I said defensively. Another huge mistake. It only made him bolder. <\/p>\n

\u201cSome here have suggested you wrote this to divert attention from your own life choices,\u201d he said, his voice dripping now with holiness and unctuous hostility. <\/p>\n

I realized where he was going. He was my judge and jury. And in that instant I knew the man had read the things I\u2019d written from the heart and gleaned not the slightest shred of understanding, was incapable of grasping even a glimmer of the true human condition of his own culture. Incapable, or deliberately blind. This man, who would contract for publication the driest didactic tomes and untold volumes of doggerel poetry, doomed to unread purgatory on dusty shelves. <\/p>\n

In submitting my writings to him, I had cast pearls before swine. Anger and frustration surged through me. <\/p>\n

In the past, he could have read Thomas Wolfe and Ernest Hemingway and Sinclair Lewis and F. Scott Fitzgerald and a host of other truly great writers of that age and yawned in boredom and disdain. Because of the narrow prism of his blinkered lenses. And because he would judge all they had said from inside the impenetrable walls of his cultural shell. <\/p>\n

He had just trotted out that old Amish canard. That rusty, time worn antique, that sly stiletto, that cheap poisonous accusation. The one I\u2019d heard countless times before in previous lifetimes. In my youth. What you are saying cannot possibly be legit, because you have forsaken your own birthright. And you are motivated to point out the flaws of others to detract from the glaring sins that are your own. <\/p>\n

There is no defense against such slander. You can\u2019t prove a negative. (When did you stop beating your wife?) Whatever one says in response only proves the accuser\u2019s point. <\/p>\n

He sat there, gloating, firm and smug. I could feel it through the phone. He had me. <\/p>\n

I should have shut it down right there. Politely. Firmly. And hung up. But I didn\u2019t. I don\u2019t know why. Probably because I wasn\u2019t mentally prepared for such an attack from a supposed professional. Maybe because I clung to a tiny wisp of hope that I could explain, could make him see. Besides, I simply could not believe what I was hearing. So I stayed on defense.<\/p>\n

\u201cThis is the first time I heard anything like that about any of my writings,\u201d I countered.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat\u2019s what people here are saying,\u201d he repeated smugly. I could feel his spirit on the attack as he closed in like a shark. \u201cWe feel that you have disrespected the church, the church that is holy and perfect before God.\u201d <\/p>\n

And that was just the beginning. On and on he rolled, rebuking me for an endless list of offenses. Furious frowning God. What does the family think or say? Why was I so harsh on Aylmer?<\/p>\n

I said little. There was really nothing to say. A pause, then. Insufferable piety oozed through the phone.<\/p>\n

\u201cAre you Amish?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n

Joe balked a bit, then admitted that he was. \u201cBut around here, we are Christians. That\u2019s what\u2019s really important.\u201d he added piously. Inwardly, I groaned. How many more clich\u00e9s would the man spout?<\/p>\n

One more, apparently. A big one. \u201cI\u2019ve checked your web site,\u201d he continued, as if talking to a child. \u201cAnd you say you are a Christian. But I wasn\u2019t able to tell from your writings. Of course, I didn\u2019t read them all. But the ones I read, I had to wonder. Are you a Christian?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cLook,\u201d I flared. \u201cI\u2019ve experienced a lot in my life. A lot of tragedy and a lot of grief and loss. I try to tell the stories as they happened. Honestly. I don\u2019t preach. I don\u2019t close out each writing with a syrupy didactic little lesson. Where everything all works out. Because sometimes it doesn\u2019t. I let people figure it out for themselves. That\u2019s what literature does. I\u2019m not saying I write great literature or anything. But that\u2019s what I try to do. As best I can.\u201d<\/p>\n

I may as well have been talking to a wall. He would not, could not hear my words. His voice oozed with high holiness and sanctimonious judgment. <\/p>\n

\u201cBut are you a Christian?\u201d he persisted obstinately. <\/p>\n

\u201cI am,\u201d I said. <\/p>\n

I could feel his response in the silent pulsing tension. He knew I was lying. That I was a heathen. <\/p>\n

He\u2019d just called me one. With his asinine questions. <\/p>\n

A few stilted oily preening comments then, in closing down the inquisition. He insisted I should look him up, when I\u2019m \u201cin the area.\u201d He would like to meet me, he claimed patronizingly. We hung up. The interrogation was over. <\/p>\n

The great ten-ton gate of final judgment clanged shut with a mighty thud. I was found wanting. And stood condemned. <\/p>\n

Blind rage surged through me. I stumbled back to my desk and tried to regroup. To figure out what had just come down. To process the fact that an Amish man miles away had just sliced and diced and dissed me. Had spit me out. Rejected not only my writings, but me as a person. Before God. With all the pious judgment and concrete assurance of the most spotless Pharisee. It was tough to absorb. Fortunately, the office phones rang steadily, and I was soon immersed in the daily grind of my work. <\/p>\n

But the rage seethed and bubbled in me. That night. The next day. And the next. And then, about the third day, the light began to penetrate the darkness that clouded my mind. And I began to see. <\/p>\n

A lot of things. Why I had allowed a man I had never met, and have no desire to meet, to trigger such a strong reaction in me. Why I had delegated such power to him. <\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t Joe as a person, but what he represented. And the host of dormant memories that were unleashed from the recesses of my mind, and descended like a flood. Of the dark underbelly of the culture from which I emerged so many years ago. The sinister powers of that shadowy world, powers that will not see or speak the truth about certain things. Or allow them to be seen or spoken. <\/p>\n

Universal things, the ebb and flow of life, the pride and passions, the pain and loss, the flaws and triumphs, the faults and failures, and the good things too. That are the stuff of human experience, regardless of time, location or culture. Things that have rarely been honestly told by anyone who has emerged from an Amish background.<\/p>\n

They stand guard at the gates today, those in the network of that power, of which Joe is but a tiny cog. And blandly pretend to honor the memory of a man like Elmo Stoll, all the while demonizing and condemning those who truly do honor his memory and his name. By being honest about who he was. <\/p>\n

They refuse to acknowledge, those guardians at the gates, one important point about themselves and their history. It\u2019s not all darkness. And it\u2019s not all light. Nothing human on this earth is. To pretend otherwise, and to demand obeisance to such pretense, is disingenuous at best, deliberately obtuse at worst. <\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t necessarily make them evil. Not in and of itself. It just makes them wrong. A culture that refuses to tolerate honest examination from others, even its \u201cwayward\u201d sons, cannot truly know itself. <\/p>\n

As the realization of these truths sank in, I calmed down a good deal. I\u2019d seen it all before, many times. In the past, years ago. Other hapless questioners, crushed like bugs. But somehow, you never think it will happen to you. That you will be the one in the crosshairs. As I now am. Squarely. <\/p>\n

I don\u2019t feel sorry for Joe, but I cut him some slack. Not that I\u2019m excusing the ambush. He chose to do what he did. To blindside me with his condescending unctuous litany of tired worn out clich\u00e9s he passed off as original thought. But I don\u2019t doubt that he did what he thought was right. He\u2019s probably a decent guy, a loving husband, a caring father. And a sincere Christian. <\/p>\n

He just happened to be the one who broke the final straw. At least six times this year, my bona fides as a Christian have been called into question. In similar fashion, but electronically via email or on this site. (Comment #26<\/a> on the last Elmo blog is a real doozy. Scroll to the last comment.) Once on another public forum. You can shake it off. For awhile. But there comes a time when such scurrilous, intellectually lazy attacks must be confronted. <\/p>\n

Not so long ago, had something like this happened, I would have reacted with a rash of impulsive vows. Not to ever allow something like this to happen again. I will be on alert for even the slightest hint of attack. Suspicious. On guard. But as my good counselor Sam has patiently reminded me these many years, such negative vows tend to close the heart, to choke off the vibrant flow of life and passion. And end up hurting the one determined not to get hurt. In this case, me.<\/p>\n

I trust Sam. He looks out for me. So I won\u2019t make such a vow. But I won\u2019t be a sheep led to slaughter either. I learned from this little episode. Even so, it\u2019s possible, even probable that some day, somehow, another ambush might sneak through. From another \u201cJoe.\u201d If it does, I plan to confront it and cut it off. Politely. Cut it short before it escalates, as this one did. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s tough, to be rejected by your culture. Years ago, while on the wheat harvest, I worked for a man whose father had emerged from the Hutterite Colonies as a youth. The father was now old. I forget the exact details, but somehow he purchased a piece of equipment from the Colony he had forsaken decades before. Might have been at a public auction. When the time came to settle up, the Colony leaders would not accept his money. He had left them and was considered a heathen. The father was deeply affected by their rejection. Thrown for a serious mental loop. <\/p>\n

I remember at the time wondering why. How it could have affected him so deeply, so negatively. Why he allowed it to bother him so. Why he gave them such power. Why he didn\u2019t just shake it off. <\/p>\n

I don\u2019t wonder anymore. <\/p>\n

This, then, is where it stands. Joe\u2019s attack and its aftermath clearly shed light on some core truths. Among the Amish churches, there exists a strong element that is almost entirely hostile to me. Certainly not all of them. But a substantial percentage. The guardians at the gates. And their minions. The “Joes” of the world. To them, my writings are a toxic poison. To be resisted on every front. And quashed as necessary.<\/p>\n

Oh sure, they\u2019ll read the stuff. Can\u2019t help themselves, I guess. It\u2019s good to know what the enemy is up to, and all that. So they read. And shake their heads and seethe inside and murmur to each other, wondering how such a scandalous thing can be. <\/p>\n

There are no more illusions. If anything I write is ever published, there will be a horrendous social and cultural cost. And no \u201cplain\u201d publisher will ever touch any of my writings with a ten foot pole. <\/p>\n

I\u2019m not making any vows. Sam taught me that lesson well. A heart filled with rage and tension and conflict and bitterness can produce only the fruits of that seed. I won’t live like that. And I don\u2019t want to be defined by such a harvest.<\/p>\n

Tomorrow is promised to no one. I don\u2019t know the future, or whether \u201cThe Shepherd Chronicles\u201d will ever see the light of day. It might happen. And it might not. For now, it needs some extensive reworking and editing. We\u2019ll see what develops. <\/p>\n

And so, it seems, I’ve reached a milestone. One that I’d perhaps not anticipated, but is really not that surprising in retrospect. The realization that any person who writes the stories of his past, his youth, his life as he lived it, and the characters around him, will pay a price. From those who take exception and offense at the writer’s conclusions and perspectives. It’s been thus always. And, I suppose, will always be so. <\/p>\n

I have to choose. I can shut it down, shamed, chastened, and allow my voice to be silenced, or at least subdued. Or I can continue the work that has sustained me through the shadows and fog of these past two years. Writing as the muse strikes, writing the things I\u2019ve seen and lived and learned and felt. As honestly as I\u2019m able. And posting it on this blog that is open to all who wish to read. Including those who scan closely with critical eyes to search diligently for some reason, some slight justification, to disparage and denounce my motives, my character, and my faith.<\/p>\n

Those who know me should have no qualms; they should know well the choice that beckons.<\/p>\n

There is only one. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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